Difficult Births and Birth Trauma
More and more women nowadays are experiencing negatives births. There are many possible reasons such as
- Western woman are brought up to be in control of their lives whereas birth requires the woman's mind and body to surrender
- Births commonly take place in hospital where a woman is a patient and therefore not in control of her environment, she lacks privacy and typically hands over her power to the experts
Birth trauma or difficult birth memories often arise when a woman experiences a birth which is very different from her expectations. So for example if a woman wants a natural birth and has intervention, she may be disappointed if she does not feel in control of the course of events. Conversely, if a woman very much wants an epidural, but there is no time to give her one or an anaesthetist is not available, so she births naturally, she may feel cheated that she did not have the birth she wanted/ expected. It may be difficult for her to feel understood by people around her because they may expect her to be happy because she had a natural birth.
EFT is really excellent at releasing birth trauma and some women have experienced release of the negativity and other symptoms in just one session.
See the video testimonial below which shows a woman talking about how one session help her overcome her difficult birth.
Post Natal Period
The start of new motherhood is a special and fragile time for mother and baby to get to know each other, connect and bond. Nowadays there is little support for them as extended families often live far away and partners don't get much time off work. So instead of focusing on being with the baby while being nurtured and looked after themselves, they are also having to cook, feed and take care of themselves and their homes as well as their babies. Women are encouraged to get back on their feet as soon as possible and 'back to normal'. Since becoming a mother is such a life changing event, mothers never move 'back'to normal but rather 'forward' to a new normal - a normal that takes time to happen. I suggest around 2 years. When a baby is 6 weeks old, a mother takes him or her to the doctor and has a check up herself. She is usually told that she is back to normal. So women expect to carry on like they used to, only with baby-in-tow.
This expectation of themselves and of society does not allow space for the woman to integrate the birth of herself as mother. All confusing or negative feelings are often swept under the carpet and a brave face is put on. Suppressing negative feelings can be a contributing factor to post-natal blues or even depression, especially if the birth has not unfolded as the woman hoped for giving rise to guilt, anger and grief. EFT can help a woman acknowledge suppressed feelings and then release them, helping her to find peace within herself and connect with her baby.
Contributor: Tamara Donn